Time to play

Current obsessions: irreverent, playful pieces for home that are a little bit Memphis-design wacky, a little bit modernist, and a whole lot of fun.  Curved lines, chubby shapes, and a healthy dose of quirk?  Yes and please!  Perhaps it is the post-holiday lull, or I’m wanting to capture the freshness of a new year?  Either way, here are some fun items I am craving:

A curvy bench-couch hybrid just begs to be lounged on.  And that nubby fabric!

Francois Halard: A Visual Diary is exactly what I want on my coffee table right now.  Bold, stunning, and personal.

This chubby round stacked vase always makes me smile.  It’s like a wink of fun every time I see it on my console, and I love the minty hue.

I simply must have this print.  So hilariously clever!

This Scalamandré-esque shower curtain had me at hello.  Perfection with some minimal brass bath accessories and an amber apothecary jar or two.

Target’s decor options keep getting better and better, and this artsy-cool pillow is no exception.  So chic and easy.

And finally, I am dying over Ayush Kasliwal’s notch wood chair — classic and architectural, and so fresh and fun at the same time!

All of these together would be beautiful in my imaginary little Parisian pied-à-terre, no?  Individually, though, they are just as amazing, and easy enough to incorporate with a variety of decor styles.  Which would you choose?  Any fun new home additions calling your name this January?

Is there really a “right” answer?

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about where I am in life and where I am headed, and whether I am ready to make a leap into something new.  I’ve been agonizing over finding the right decision, over and over as is my wont.  All of sudden on my commute home the other day, though, I had a real moment of clarity: what if there isn’t actually a right answer?  Or, more importantly, what if there isn’t actually a wrong answer?  I immediately felt a weight lift off my shoulders at the thought.  Perhaps, after all is said and done, each path I might choose has potential.  Each path has its own validity.  And no matter what I choose, I will be okay.  I will be okay.

I think perhaps I have tried to “do what’s right” for so long that doing something I want ceased to be a consideration.  Or what I “want” became conflated with “wanting to make the right decision.”  Either way, what will actually make me feel happy and fulfilled has gotten lost in the shuffle.  I cannot explain how revolutionary it is to consider that perhaps there is no one right answer.  And now, armed with that insight, I finally feel like I have permission from myself to move forward in a way that will make me happy.  I don’t have to feel obligated to check the “right” boxes.  Of course, in the abstract I am aware that there isn’t a right or wrong answer for many things.  We exist in perpetual shades of grey, where things are often subjective.  For some reason, though, it has never really occurred to me that was the case for my life.

It occurs to me that the patriarchy has insidious finger-holds in so much of our societal consciousness.  As a woman, we have rarely had the luxury of asking ourselves what we want.  And even though, in theory, we have progressed to a point where that is an option, can we really make those choices freely?  So much of our self-worth and happiness is tied up in making others feel happy and cared-for.  A spouse, children, our aging parents… they have needs we are conditioned to want to meet, and our own needs be damned — or at least, swept under the rug into unobtrusive invisibility.  I’ve decided I don’t want my desires to be forced into invisibility any longer.

I am incredibly lucky to have good people around me — people I love and trust and can rely on.  Maybe it is time to release the vise-grip I feel like I have to maintain on my image, the way I want people to see me, and the way I feel like my narrative should unfold?  Part of my fear in choosing wrong is that I will be judged, or seen as wanting somehow.  That not choosing correctly equals failure.  But then, so what?  No matter how much I try to convince myself otherwise, I truly have no control over how people see me, feel about me, or whether they will judge me.  Nor can I possibly please everyone.

So, as we embark on a new year, I am thinking a lot.  I am beginning to plan ways I might like to move forward with me in mind.  Not what I feel I should do, not what I think I have to keep doing, but what will fulfill me.  It is a strange feeling, I have to admit.  I feel selfish (I’m not) and perhaps a little bit adrift.  I’m going to try to move through that discomfort to a place of discovery, though, and I’m looking forward to the ride.  See you on the other side.

New classics

Happy new year!  The start of a new year always feels fresh to me, and I’ve got classics on my mind for looks that are clean-clean-clean after all the excess of the holidays.

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Leave it to J. Crew to make the perfect tan blazer.  I’m planning to wear this for years.  Paired with a chambray shirt and black denim?  Yes and please.  Jeans and a graphic tee?  Perfection.  Pencil skirt and blouse?  Of course!  I could go on and on.

 

universalstandard_v_rex_navy_dove_grey_stripe

Other items in my wardrobe may come and go, but my striped tees are forever staples.  Universal Standard’s Peruvian cotton has a wonderful drape, so I am thrilled to add this one to my rotation.

 

nordstrom_pave_huggie_hoops

I got a third hole pierced in each ear just before Christmas and I couldn’t be happier about it — I’ve been having tons of fun mixing and matching my earrings ever since.  Huggie-style hoops are having a huge moment right now, and these feel perfectly classic to me. These sweet pink ones are adorable as well.

 

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Speaking of perfection, this cardigan is it.  Super soft, lightweight yet plenty warm, flattering cut, and a beautiful navy hue so you can pair it with anything.

 

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This perhaps falls into the huge-organizational-nerd category, but because it isn’t the new year without some sort of attempt to streamline things, I picked up a pack of these translucent amber bottles for our shower.  Goodbye, loud mismash of brightly-colored labels.  Hello, calm apothecary shower experience.  *hearteyes*

I don’t feel like I need a new me for the new year per se, but fresh clean and classic?  I’m all in.

Wish list 2019

I love this time of year.  Christmas lights are up, choosing gifts I know my loved ones will adore is one of my favorite things, and the scent of fir trees makes me happy every time I catch a whiff.  It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas!

As the holidays draw nigh, here is a list of things I am wishing for:

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I recently had the pleasure of chatting with Kate Joseph of Clouds and Ladders at a trunk show, and I was head-over-heels for her jewelry at first sight.  She is a delight.  Her jewelry is a delight.  I simply must have these studs.

thecitizenry_oro_cups

I have pined after these beautiful cups for years, and this is finally the year!  The shape, size, heft, and delicately imperfect stripe are just perfection.

thecitizenry_cuadra_throw

The tonal stripe of this gorgeous alpaca throw offers year-round cozy vibes, not to mention it is fair-trade in the truest sense of the word.

coach_stripe_field_tote

Speaking of stripes, I am enamored with this new Coach field tote.  Their new horse-and-carriage print feels so fresh, and I love the plush velvet stripes!  It’s the ideal size for everyday schlepping.

freepeople_quilted_denim_jacket

For reasons I cannot describe, this jacket had me at hello.  Somehow the denim, the quilting, the big slant pockets, and the slouchy comfort all add up to a lounge-y coat I want to wear all season.

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And lastly, I cannot wait to get my hands on a copy of Paris by Design.  I love that city so much, and this would be a nice way to revisit without the hefty airfare price tag.  Although, if someone wanted to slip a pair of plane tickets inside, I would not be sad.

What are you wishing for this holiday season?  Wishing you a merry one!

Giving thanks

While for many of us today marks the beginning of the holiday rush, I’d like to encourage a moment to reflect, give thanks, and maybe even give back.  May I offer a little nudge towards The Citizenry for some of your holiday gifts?  Not only do they offer incredibly beautiful items that support artisan communities all over the world, but today your purchases also help support their Black Friday Fund.  All profits today — yep, all profits — go towards building schools for migrant children at the U.S.-Mexico border.  While their families wait to seek legal asylum in the U.S., these children have no place to learn and play.  Education is a fundamental right these children are being deprived of, and today we can do a little bit to change that.  Every $120 we spend funds a week of school for a child: a real life magic school bus mobile school providing teachers, a psychologist, uniforms, and supplies.

Here are some of my favorites to bring some warmth to you or someone you love this holiday season.  Each is handmade, beautiful, and sure to be treasured for years to come.

Paloma alpaca throw  Oro cacao cups  Cuño accent pillow  Nublado wool throw

So thankful this year for family, friends, warm fuzzy cuddles, and the beauty of sharing.

Don’t forget!  Giving Tuesday is coming in just a few days!  It is a great opportunity to support causes that lie close to our hearts.

Matter

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Bleu II, Joan Miró

Matter

 

I could really fuck myself up over a boy like you

(and by “I could” I mean “I am”)

with that slow crooked smile,

that kindness, that quick-witted humor that makes me smile

until you shatter me with silence.

Those stupid beautiful eyes twist me up, make me ache,

make we crave/need/want

as only a book-loving writer of a boy could (and can, and does).

 

A constant state of yearning is de rigueur as long as you’re here

yet not here, as present/absent as a quantum reckoning.

Oh, honey — you’ve fucked me up bad and I’m off to the races,

off-kilter, off in dreamland as I wait wait wait for you to wake up,

to love me, to make me feel like I matter, am matter, am solidly a part

of that life you keep close to the vest that I so desperately want to inhabit.

Thumb is out for this hitchhiker, this will o’ the wisp black-hole-dense dreamer

who loves you and might even gift you her smile

if you would only open your eyes.

–Charla M. DelaCuadra

Make mine modern

Lately I’ve been coveting a modern feel.  Neutrals, clean lines, black and chrome and leather, oh my!  I just can’t get enough.

Each of these interiors I find so appealing and well-balanced.  Interesting angles juxtaposed with curved lines — a sharp-lined chair with an arched lamp or curvy pendant here, a playful couch with an angular coffee table there — and enough touches of black to keep the eye intrigued.  Plus just enough eclecticism to keep things feeling inviting?  Just my style.

Via: ellendixdotter myscandinavianhome  the design files  colin king  stylebyemilyhenderson  DISC Interiors  almostmakesperfect